As the mom of three teenagers ages 19, 17, and 15 — and an almost-teenager who turns 13 in a short five months — I’m here with a consoling message from the thick of it: there are a lot of ...

"If you go to your teen with a list of 20 things that you want her to do, she won't do any of them," says Altmann. "But if you figure out a few things that are the most important to you, you may ...