Dear Readers: I have thoroughly enjoyed reading your many responses to “Left Speechless,” the 55-year-old mother who felt herself struggling with how to reply to strangers when asked if she is her children’s mother or grandmother. We have such a supportive and insightful Dear Annie community (filled with many wonderful mothers!).

Dear Annie: I’m so happy for this sweet mother having such love and dedication for her children. Please let her know that people asking a simple question doesn’t mean the question is judgmental. She didn’t include anything that sounded like judgmental statements -- people are probably just wondering how to address her in regard to her children.

Dear Annie: I’m so happy for this sweet mother having such love and dedication for her children. Please let her know that people asking a simple question doesn’t mean the question is judgmental. She didn’t include anything that sounded like judgmental statements -- people are probably just wondering how to address her in regard to her children.

In today's Dear Annie column, Annie Lane shares letters from other moms who share how they respond when asked if they are their child's parent or grandparent.

My mother has caused me so much hurt for as far back as I can remember. When I was a kid, I was sexually abused by my brother. I told her, and she said I was lying. I used to think I was adopted because there was no way a parent could be so mean to a biological child.

When my son got killed in a car accident 13 years ago, she posted on Facebook that I got what I deserved, a reader tells Annie Lane.

When my son got killed in a car accident 13 years ago, she posted on Facebook that I got what I deserved. When I finally got up the nerve to divorce the man my parents forced me to marry at age 17, she posted on his Facebook how she would always love him.

My husband and I have been married for 34 years. We have two grown children, both of whom still live with us. They work and pay rent toward our mortgage. I have no problem with their living at home, and I don’t think my husband does either.